It’s You I Like

When depression cradles me and feels warm like an old blanket, Mr. Rogers brings me solace. He doesn't use big words or complicated concepts. I've always been obsessed with his show. Growing up in the 80's with no cable meant choices were limited. I remember rushing home to make sure the VCR timer recorded the morning episode every day after school. 

I sobbed when he died. I felt like a part of my childhood died with him. How could this old white man who looked nothing like me have such an impact on me? Fred Rogers made me feel like it was ok to be me. I didn't always fit in (still don't) and he stressed the importance of being an individual and we all mean something to the world. He spoke softly and was intentional in the words he chose.  

The simplicity spoke to me then and still has the same impact today. Life is hard and long but there are helpers that try to make things better. Find a helper. Find a helper. Find a helper. Mr. Rogers is still one of my helpers.

Today, when I want to give up or I feel like I can't handle one more gut punch from life, I play this video:
 

It almost feels silly. I'm an almost 40 year old woman with an 18 year old daughter and a husband! How can this infantile song bring me such comfort? Well, sometimes, I just need to be reminded to like myself. I'm insanely flawed and have done not so great things, sure, but Mr. Rogers makes me feel like I deserve love, and kindness, and all the good things this world has to offer. I think deep down, we all just want, no, need to be treated like human beings. Damaged, confused, and lost human beings who are trying to navigate life with no compass. Mr. Rogers helps me get my bearings, even if just for a moment.  Sometimes, that moment, where I’m allowed to find my way, is enough to get me through my darkest moments.— KG

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